At 60 years old, I can finally say this with clarity: Happiness is Unconditional — and Unconditional Happiness is the only way to truly find Happiness.
For much of my life, I thought happiness was something to be earned. My inner mantra was, “I’ll be happy when I succeed, when I heal, when I find love, when I feel enough. ” Yet each time I achieved something, the happiness faded. It felt like a moving target, always just out of reach.
The turning point didn’t come from achieving more but from turning inward. Through decades of meditation, yoga, qigong, breathwork, and quiet self-inquiry, I began to discover a space within me — still, steady, and always present. In that space I realized: happiness was never waiting for me outside. It had always been here, unconditional, quietly alive beneath all the noise.
Life has not been without pain. I have known heartbreak, loneliness, fear, and struggle. But I discovered something deeper — even in the darkest moments there is a part of me untouched by suffering, a place of peace, joy, and love. The practice is to return there, again and again, gently, without judgment.
I’ve distilled my understanding of happiness into four guiding truths:
- Be who you are. Beyond roles, achievements, and expectations, discover your essence. Without self-knowledge, happiness rests on sand.
- Know what you want and how to get there. Clarity of heart gives direction without attachment to outcomes.
- Enjoy the process, not the destination. Happiness lives in the journey itself. Letting go of expectations opens space for freedom and joy to unfold naturally.
- Be grateful for Friendship along your journey. True friends are gifts of the heart. They walk beside you, mirror your growth, and remind you that happiness blossoms in authentic connection.
These are not abstract ideas for me. They live in my daily life. When I sit in stillness, I remember happiness needs no conditions. When I move with awareness, joy flows through me. When I breathe deeply, I feel my heart expand with gratitude — for life, for friends, for the teachers and even the challenges that shaped me.
Over time, I’ve seen how happiness leads to joy, and joy opens the heart to love — not the fragile love that depends on someone else, but the unconditional love that arises naturally when we know ourselves and accept ourselves fully.
This is why I now share these practices with others. I want people to see what I have seen: that happiness is not a prize at the end of the road but the ground we walk on every day. We do not have to wait for life to be perfect to feel joy. We can practice returning, moment by moment, to the wholeness that is already here.
For me, Unconditional Happiness is not about pretending life is always easy. It is about allowing life as it is, resting in the deeper current beneath it, and choosing again and again to return to that inner space of peace.
Each time I forget, I gently remind myself: “I am whole. I am love. I am free. ” And in that moment, I find my way back.
I am happy unconditionally.